YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IF...
- Madhukar Dama
- May 10
- 12 min read
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN BEING HEALTHY IF…
1. You want to cure diabetes but still eat white rice thrice a day.
2. You say you want to lose weight but hate walking.
3. You claim acidity is ruining your life but sip tea 5 times a day.
4. You say you have no energy but refuse to sleep before midnight.
5. You complain about bloating but keep ordering Swiggy dinners.
6. You want strong bones but avoid the sun like it’s a curse.
7. You say you want to heal your thyroid but take zero interest in your gut health.
8. You want clear skin but drink zero water and bathe in cosmetics.
9. You want to get rid of back pain but sit like a stone statue for 10 hours.
10. You say you want peace but can’t sit 5 minutes without scrolling your phone.
11. You say you want to feel happy but won’t leave your gossip group.
12. You want a strong immunity but sterilize your home like a hospital.
13. You want to be calm but have no problem with caffeine, sugar, or chaos.
14. You claim to be spiritual but eat dead, packaged, soulless food.
15. You say you want to sleep well but keep your phone under your pillow.
16. You claim to love your kids but feed them poison every day in the name of snacks.
17. You want a long life but treat your body like a dustbin.
18. You say you want to age well but never move your muscles.
19. You say you want better digestion but eat with distractions and anger.
20. You say you want to be fit but look for shortcuts like pills and powders.
21. You want glowing skin but spend 0 seconds in nature.
22. You say you love nature but can’t survive without air-conditioning.
23. You say “mental health matters” but never switch off the news.
24. You want to heal your child’s allergies but refuse to stop junk and milk.
25. You want pain relief but never question your diet, posture, or stress.
26. You want better health but refuse to cook real food at home.
27. You say you want to breathe better but ignore your addiction to room sprays.
28. You say you want vitality but are okay with daily alcohol or smoking.
29. You want better sex but refuse to get rid of belly fat and sugar.
30. You want to be disease-free but can’t tolerate hunger or simple living.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN PEACE IF…
31. You say you want peace but never cut off toxic people.
32. You want calmness but live in noise and clutter.
33. You say family peace matters but are addicted to being right.
34. You want fewer fights but never change your tone.
35. You want inner peace but chase external status.
36. You say you're stressed but can't go one day without TV.
37. You want silence but fear being alone.
38. You want mental clarity but refuse to simplify your life.
39. You want to meditate but run away from stillness.
40. You want freedom but stay enslaved to apps, brands, and opinions.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN LOVE IF…
41. You say you want a loving relationship but don't want to listen.
42. You say you love your partner but constantly nag, blame, and compare.
43. You say you want love but refuse to heal your past wounds.
44. You want your children to trust you but treat them like projects.
45. You say you value your parents but call them only on festivals.
46. You say you love people but spend more time with screens.
47. You want your marriage to work but refuse to change any habit.
48. You say you're affectionate but can’t offer one real hug without agenda.
49. You say you want intimacy but hide behind work and pride.
50. You want your child to feel secure but live an anxious, distracted life.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN SUCCESS IF…
51. You want to do great things but start nothing.
52. You want clarity but fill your day with noise.
53. You say you want growth but fear failure more than stagnation.
54. You say you want to learn but waste hours in entertainment.
55. You want to create but wait for permission.
56. You want abundance but live in greed and comparison.
57. You say you're ambitious but lazy in action.
58. You say you're hardworking but burn out without purpose.
59. You want confidence but do nothing uncomfortable.
60. You want recognition but fear being misunderstood.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN TRUTH IF…
61. You say you want to understand but defend every belief.
62. You want honesty but lie to yourself daily.
63. You say you want depth but live in convenience.
64. You say you want to know reality but only listen to what comforts you.
65. You want freedom but are addicted to your image.
66. You say you want integrity but break your own word.
67. You say you value honesty but can’t take criticism.
68. You say you’re spiritual but gossip, slander, and boast.
69. You say you’re open-minded but attack anything unfamiliar.
70. You say you want to evolve but avoid accountability.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN CHANGE IF…
71. You complain daily but change nothing weekly.
72. You feel stuck but won't simplify.
73. You want transformation but keep the same inputs.
74. You talk about healing but live in habits that hurt you.
75. You post quotes but refuse to apply one.
76. You read 100 books but haven’t left one bad habit.
77. You want less stress but can’t say no.
78. You say you want a fresh start but carry your past like a badge.
79. You want to simplify but buy more things.
80. You want to evolve but repeat every old script.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN FREEDOM IF…
81. You say you want freedom but need constant validation.
82. You say you’re independent but follow every trend.
83. You want to escape but only run in circles.
84. You say you value freedom but live in financial bondage.
85. You say you think freely but fear social judgment.
86. You say you want detachment but can’t leave your comfort.
87. You dream of off-grid but panic when power goes off.
88. You crave simplicity but worship status.
89. You want fewer rules but refuse to take responsibility.
90. You say you're free but your mood depends on a screen.
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YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN RAISING STRONG CHILDREN IF…
91. You say you want strong kids but don't let them fail.
92. You want independent children but over-plan every second.
93. You want healthy kids but feed sugar, screens, and stress.
94. You want them to be kind but model sarcasm.
95. You want them to be calm but run a chaotic home.
96. You want them to be curious but punish their questions.
97. You want them to be active but never go outdoors yourself.
98. You want them to love learning but destroy joy with pressure.
99. You say “do your best” but compare them to others.
100. You want them to trust you but don’t listen to them.
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Here is a huge, emotional, brutally honest healing dialogue between a big Indian family and Madhukar the Healer.
Each character represents a different contradiction between desire and action. The setting is Madhukar's mud home, simple and quiet, far from the noise of the city.
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CHARACTERS
Madhukar – the calm, piercing guide
Ramesh (65) – retired government officer with diabetes, joint pain
Savitri (62) – his wife, suffering from thyroid and loneliness
Rajeev (40) – their son, stressed IT manager, overweight, addicted to coffee and screens
Anita (38) – Rajeev’s wife, homemaker, obsessed with appearances, exhausted
Reya (13) – their daughter, acne, mood swings, phone-addicted
Arjun (10) – their son, constipated, hyperactive, sugar-craving
Rina (35) – Rajeev’s sister, divorced, depressed, addicted to reels and comfort food
Anand (33) – Rina’s boyfriend, gym trainer, body-obsessed, protein powder addict
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SCENE: They’ve all come seeking help after multiple health, emotional, and family issues erupted.
Madhukar sits on the floor, cross-legged. The family stands awkwardly.
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Madhukar:
Why have you come?
Rajeev:
We’re all struggling, sir. Health issues, stress, no peace at home...
Ramesh:
My sugar won’t come down, even with all the tablets.
Savitri:
My thyroid’s gone from bad to worse. I feel invisible.
Anita:
We want to be a happy family, but everything is broken.
Reya:
He just yells. She just nags. I have no one to talk to.
Arjun:
I just want sweets.
Rina:
I try everything. Still feel worthless.
Anand:
Even I feel stuck. I do everything “right” — gym, diet — but something’s missing.
Madhukar (calmly):
You’ve built a house of suffering with your own hands. And now you’re asking why it burns.
(Silence.)
Madhukar:
Let me ask one by one.
Ramesh, you say your sugar won’t go down. What do you eat?
Ramesh:
Just roti, rice, tea, snacks… nothing extreme.
Madhukar:
Do you walk?
Ramesh:
I sit most of the time. My knees pain.
Madhukar:
Sugar isn’t your disease. Inaction is.
You want a cure, but not change.
Savitri:
I feel alone. Unloved. My hormones are ruined. But what can I do?
Madhukar:
When was the last time you sat under a tree or walked barefoot?
Savitri:
I can’t remember.
Madhukar:
You are not unloved. You are untouched by nature.
Your loneliness is a symptom of artificial life.
Rajeev (defensive):
But I work hard. I have no time.
Madhukar:
Then don’t complain.
Either change or suffer. Don’t demand peace from poison.
Anita (teary):
I clean, cook, keep everyone happy… but no one cares. I want a break.
Madhukar:
Do you want to be free?
Then stop decorating your chains.
You serve others from emptiness. That is not love. That is slavery in lipstick.
Reya:
My skin is bad. My brain is tired. I hate everything.
Madhukar:
You scroll all night, eat chemicals, and fear silence.
Then you ask why you are ugly and sad.
Beauty comes from stillness. From sun. From sweat.
Arjun (bored):
I just want cake.
Madhukar:
You are a victim of lazy parenting and greedy companies.
Your tongue rules your life. Soon, disease will too.
Do you want to play or suffer?
Arjun (quietly):
Play...
Rina:
I tried therapy. Books. Meditation. But nothing works.
Madhukar:
Because you’ve done everything except face yourself.
You don’t want healing. You want distraction.
You eat emotions and call it food. You scroll for attention and call it peace.
Anand:
I thought fitness would make me happy. But I feel hollow.
Madhukar:
You built muscle on top of wounds. You feed on insecurity.
Fitness is not a body goal. It’s a life discipline.
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A HEAVY SILENCE FALLS. TEARS. EGO DROPS. SOMETHING SHIFTS.
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Madhukar:
You all came asking for cure.
But none of you brought truth.
You want change. But not effort.
You want joy. But not simplicity.
You want connection. But not surrender.
Every day you choose between comfort and freedom.
You choose painkillers, not pain.
You choose drama, not truth.
You choose laziness, not life.
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TRANSFORMATION BEGINS
Ramesh:
What if… I start walking daily in the garden?
Savitri:
Can I sit under the sun every morning and leave my phone aside?
Rajeev:
I’ll stop tea. Sleep early. Take a weekly phone fast.
Anita:
I’ll eat raw, rest honestly, and say “no” when needed.
Reya:
I’ll delete social media. Start a home garden.
Arjun:
Can I learn to make jaggery laddus with Amma?
Rina:
I will write instead of scrolling.
Anand:
I’ll stop powders. Start real food, real conversations.
Madhukar (smiling):
Now you are speaking the language of healing.
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Here is the 30-day follow-up scene at Madhukar’s mud home.
Same family. But something is different now.
The air feels lighter. The family walks barefoot, clothes simple, skin glowing, postures relaxed. They greet Madhukar with quiet smiles — not the desperate tension of last time.
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FOLLOW-UP SCENE: DAY 30 — REUNION AT MADHUKAR’S HOME
Madhukar (welcoming):
Ah. You look like people who have met themselves.
Ramesh (smiling):
I walk an hour daily now. I stopped sugar in tea. My joints feel younger than my grandchildren.
Madhukar:
Because now you move — not just your legs, but your mind.
Savitri (with gentle calm):
I sit under the sun. I write in the evenings. I don’t feel useless anymore.
Madhukar:
Because you touched life again — not screens, not pills, but life.
Rajeev (proudly):
No tea. No phone after 8. I started composting too. For once, my mind is not racing.
Madhukar:
You gave up speed to meet peace.
Anita (teary with gratitude):
I stopped being a martyr. I say “no.” I sit with myself. I even laughed without reason yesterday.
Madhukar:
A woman who laughs for no reason heals generations.
Reya (sun-kissed, holding leaves):
I planted tulsi, methi, coriander. My acne faded. I sleep early. I feel… peaceful.
Madhukar:
Your skin was never the problem. Your lifestyle was. Now it glows with honesty.
Arjun (chubby but shining):
I made laddus with Amma. And I play outside. I don’t want chocolates anymore.
Madhukar:
The child who plays with mud won’t crave poison.
Rina (peaceful):
I broke up with my reels. I walk alone, eat simply, write my thoughts. I feel myself again.
Madhukar:
Because you finally became your own mirror.
Anand (smiling deeply):
I teach kids yoga now. I’ve not touched protein powders in 3 weeks. My muscles feel real now.
Madhukar:
Strength is not in the biceps. It’s in the choices.
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THEY SIT TOGETHER ON THE FLOOR. TEA IS HERBAL. BISCUITS ARE JOWAR LADDU. SILENCE FILLS GAPS WHERE ONCE THERE WAS COMPLAINT.
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Madhukar (after a long pause):
See? None of you were broken. Just buried.
Under beliefs. Under comfort. Under habits.
You didn’t need healing. You needed honesty.
Healing is not a treatment.
It’s a divorce from lies.
It’s not about becoming better.
It’s about becoming true.
Now go.
You don’t need me anymore.
Just don’t go back to the people you were before.
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“YOU DON’T REALLY WANT IT”
(A huge Charles Bukowski-style poem about daily self-deception)
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you say you want peace
but your hands are itchy for your phone
like a dog scratching fleas.
you say you want health
but god forbid anyone take your biscuits away.
you want to lose weight
but not your cravings,
you want to breathe easy
but spray your home like it’s a gas chamber.
you want to fix your gut
but can’t let go of your 6 p.m. chai
like it’s your last romance.
you say you want truth
but flinch when your lies are named.
you ask for calm
but wear stress like jewelry.
you say you love your kids
but feed them sugar, screen, fear and silence.
then ask why they don't listen,
don't sleep,
don’t smile.
you want your husband to care
but you’ve wrapped love in resentment
and served it with guilt.
you want your wife to understand
but you speak in grunts, gestures, gas, and escape.
you say you’re too tired to heal
but scroll till midnight
through strangers’ food, faces, and fake lives.
you want to sleep better
but scroll until your soul is sore.
you want rest
but don’t know the weight of stillness.
you say you want to feel better
but carry every ache like a badge
and call your illness your personality.
you say you’re spiritual
but you haven’t touched soil in a decade.
you bathe in sanitizer
and call it cleanliness.
you pray for strength
then collapse at the first sign of hunger.
you fast,
but only for festivals and Facebook photos.
you chant mantras
but can’t sit through your child’s story.
you light lamps
but ignore the fire in your belly.
you say you want love
but schedule it between laundry and WhatsApp forwards.
you want your child to be brave
but punish their honesty.
you want them focused
but hand them poison in shiny wrappers.
you say you’re evolving
but you haven’t changed one habit in ten years.
you read quotes,
but can’t even sit with silence.
you want to be rich
but spend like a drunk peacock.
you want to be free
but choke on every opinion around you.
you want to look good
but won’t stop bathing in chemicals.
you want to feel good
but eat like a regretful ghost.
you say you love nature
but need the A/C on at 24°C.
you call yourself a minimalist
but your drawers are drowning in junk.
you post about parenting
but have never listened to your child cry.
you want them to be confident
but mock their ideas, their body, their voice.
you ask why you're anxious
but never unplug.
you ask why you're constipated
but sit like a stone and eat like a storm.
you say you want healing
but only if it doesn’t hurt.
you want change
but not inconvenience.
you want to evolve
but only on weekends,
after dessert,
when no one’s watching.
you say “i’ll start tomorrow”
but tomorrow is drunk
and forgot you exist.
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truth is:
you don’t want to be better.
you want to be unchanged and still feel amazing.
you want a painless redemption.
a miracle without sweat.
a cure without character.
but healing is betrayal—
you must betray your comfort,
your routine,
your sugar-coated excuses.
you must betray the person
who brought you here.
the one in the mirror
who nods along
but never moves.
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so no,
you don’t really want it.
you just want the idea of it.
the fragrance without the flower,
the music without the silence,
the victory without the war.
go on,
lie to the world if you want—
but don’t lie to your gut.
it’s been keeping score
since the day you stopped listening.
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