THE INEVITABLE ENEMY: WHY EVERY RELATIONSHIP TURNS AGAINST YOU
- Madhukar Dama
- 7 hours ago
- 4 min read
INTRODUCTION
Every human relationship, whether it is blood-bound, marriage-tied, friendship-forged, or even casually built, is secretly constructed on a trembling foundation: "What will I get from you?"
Not openly said, but deeply lived.
When this hidden hunger is satisfied, the relationship is called 'good.'
When it is not, the relationship curdles into bitterness.
The shift is not random.
It is inevitable.
It is the law of human dependency.
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THE HIDDEN BARGAIN BEHIND EVERY BOND
Even a newborn baby demands food, touch, and warmth.
The parent gives — and attachment forms.
But adulthood simply dresses up the same old neediness in more sophisticated costumes:
Affection,
Respect,
Financial help,
Social belonging,
Emotional crutches.
Behind every smile, every 'how are you,' every 'I care,' there is an unspoken demand:
Give me attention.
Give me validation.
Give me usefulness.
Give me emotional babysitting.
Even friendship, glorified as 'pure,' is built on an invisible trade agreement:
> "You comfort me in my loneliness, and I will comfort you in yours.
You listen to my rants, and I will listen to yours.
You celebrate my little victories, and I will clap for yours."
The moment you stop fulfilling your part of the silent bargain —
the love dies, the friendship wilts, and the accusations begin.
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HOW EXPECTATIONS MULTIPLY
Human hunger is bottomless.
When you satisfy one demand, it does not end — it multiplies.
If you call a friend every day, missing one day will be seen as betrayal.
If you help a cousin financially once, it becomes your permanent duty.
If you tolerate a parent's disrespect once, it becomes your lifelong punishment.
Every act of kindness plants a seed of future expectation.
And every unmet expectation grows into a tree of resentment.
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THE TURNING POINT: WHEN YOU CAN NO LONGER GIVE
No matter how generous, kind, or loyal you are,
a day will come when:
You are tired,
You are broke,
You are busy,
You have changed,
Or you simply disagree.
That moment is the death bell of the relationship.
Family will accuse you of ingratitude.
Friends will accuse you of arrogance.
Lovers will accuse you of betrayal.
The gratitude for everything you have ever done will vanish,
leaving behind only the bitterness of what you failed to do.
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FRIENDSHIP: THE SWEETEST FRAUD
Among all human relationships, friendship is the most praised — and the most misunderstood.
It is painted as:
Unconditional,
Voluntary,
Noble.
But even friendship is rooted in expectation:
"Be there for me emotionally."
"Validate my opinions."
"Celebrate my successes."
"Rescue me from my boredom."
The moment you cannot, or will not, meet these silent demands:
The friend begins to withdraw,
Sarcasm replaces affection,
Comparison replaces celebration,
Silence replaces sharing.
Thus, even the purest friendships eventually rot,
not because of betrayal,
but because of growing, unmet, entitled expectations.
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SELF-RELIANCE: THE ONLY RELATIONSHIP THAT DOES NOT ROT
When two self-reliant individuals meet, there is no hunger for emotional exploitation.
No begging for attention,
No score-keeping,
No guilt-tripping.
They walk together,
not because they need to —
but because they choose to.
But such connections are extremely rare —
because true self-reliance is extremely rare.
And even between self-reliant souls,
attachment fades, and distance arises,
not through anger,
but through a peaceful natural drifting.
Thus, true self-reliance is not the beginning of eternal relationships —
it is the end of all illusions about relationships.
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CONCLUSION
You are not betrayed because people are evil.
You are betrayed because most relationships are based on silent trade.
When the trade fails, the connection collapses.
Simple.
If you understand this,
You will stop expecting loyalty,
You will stop enforcing gratitude,
You will stop forcing forgiveness,
You will simply love without chains — and let go without wounds.
Because in the end:
Real love is not something you bind.
It is something you bless, and release.
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HEALING DIALOGUE
(Madhukar the Hermit and a Young Couple)
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Couple (Crying):
"Everyone is turning against us — parents, siblings, even our closest friends. We loved them so much!"
Madhukar (Smiling gently):
"You loved them. But they loved what they were getting from you."
Couple (Shocked):
"But… we thought friendship was different!"
Madhukar:
"Friendship is beautiful only as long as you feed it.
Feed their loneliness.
Feed their insecurities.
Feed their pride.
Stop feeding it — and see what remains."
Couple (Silent, pained):
"Then what is the point of any relationship?"
Madhukar:
"Self-reliance.
The point is to learn to need no one — and then love everyone freely."
Couple:
"But won’t that make us very lonely?"
Madhukar:
"At first, yes.
Because you were addicted to being needed.
But slowly, you will taste a love that demands nothing and fears nothing."
Couple:
"And friends? Family?"
Madhukar:
"They will pass through your life like travelers through a resting house.
Enjoy them, help them, smile with them.
But do not build your house on their passing promises."
(The couple sits in deep silence.
Their illusions, burning quietly to ash —
their freedom, rising quietly from the ashes.)
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EVERY SMILE HAS A PRICE TAG
you call them friends,
but they are just bartenders of loneliness,
pouring comfort
for the price of your patience.
you call it family,
but it's just a loan shark,
lending you fake warmth
with a thousand conditions.
you call it love,
but it's just a gambling house,
where every "i love you"
is a bet on what you’ll do next.
nobody sticks around
when the pockets are empty,
when the smiles dry up,
when the applause falls silent.
relationships are shops,
and you are just merchandise,
wrapped in soft skin and softer lies.
there are no friends,
no lovers,
no families,
only customers
and sellers,
hiding behind banners
of blood, laughter, and promises.
and the worst part?
you signed up for this.
you paid the entrance fee.
you called it love.
you fool.
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