SOCIALIZATION IS A SCAM
- Madhukar Dama
- Apr 27
- 18 min read
No child is born chasing certificates, approval, or status.
Children are born with instincts — to move, to touch, to feel, to rest, to question, to connect.
Everything they need to live a full human life is already inside them.
But very early, the process called socialization begins.
It does not happen with one event.
It happens through thousands of small messages:
"Be a good boy."
"Smile nicely."
"Don't ask so many questions."
"Behave properly."
"What will people think?"
At first, it looks harmless.
It seems like teaching manners, teaching adjustment, teaching how to live with others.
But over time, something deeper happens:
Children stop living naturally and start performing socially.
They begin to choose words not based on truth, but based on approval.
They begin to suppress instincts — hunger, anger, sadness, joy — to fit acceptable timings and appearances.
They begin to ignore their body’s signals to meet society’s schedules and targets.
By the time they reach adulthood, most human beings no longer know what they actually feel, want, or need.
They only know what is expected.
Socialization promises safety, belonging, and success.
But what it often delivers is fear, conformity, and exhaustion.
It teaches individuals to:
Obey without understanding,
Seek validation without self-respect,
Accumulate titles without inner growth,
Compare endlessly without feeling fulfilled.
Socialization is not just about learning how to live with others.
It becomes a slow replacement of real life with scripted life.
This document is a careful exploration of how socialization — especially in modern Indian society —
trains individuals not to live, but to perform.
We will not shout.
We will not blame.
We will simply observe — quietly, deeply, honestly.
Because once you see it clearly, you cannot unsee it.
And from that moment onward, life — real life — can begin again.
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1. You are taught to belong, not to be yourself.
Example 1: A child passionate about wildlife photography is pushed into IIT coaching from 6th standard because "log kya kahenge" (what will people say).
Example 2: A girl who loves farming is told she must get a corporate job in Bengaluru or Hyderabad to be considered 'successful'.
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2. You are trained to seek external approval.
Example 1: Students post photos with trophies and medals on Instagram, even when the competition was meaningless.
Example 2: Adults obsessively forwarding “Happy Diwali” messages to hundreds just to not appear rude.
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3. You are prepared to be manageable, not free.
Example 1: School children are forced to stand in lines, wear identical uniforms, march in parades — not for education, but for obedience.
Example 2: In offices, employees must attend useless meetings and say "yes sir, yes ma’am" to survive.
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4. You are disconnected from nature and instincts.
Example 1: Indian children growing up thinking mangoes come from supermarkets, never touching a mango tree.
Example 2: Pregnant women discouraged from instinctual birthing practices (like squatting birth) and forced into C-sections due to "doctor's advise".
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5. You are made to fear aloneness.
Example 1: A bachelor above 30 is viewed with suspicion, pitied or mocked ("Shaadi nahi hui kya?").
Example 2: A woman traveling solo is seen as irresponsible, rebellious, or "easy" in many Indian towns.
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6. You are given fake hierarchies.
Example 1: A software engineer from Infosys is respected more than a skilled potter who makes beautiful hand-thrown pottery.
Example 2: English-speaking kids are admired while regional language speakers (Kannada, Marathi, Tamil) are mocked even in their own states.
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7. You are taught to betray yourself for acceptance.
Example 1: A boy passionate about classical singing is told to "focus on real career" and stop wasting time on music.
Example 2: Girls pretending to be 'modern' (wearing clothes they hate, drinking alcohol) just to not be judged by urban peers.
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8. You are made addicted to social identity.
Example 1: "I am a CA" is a major bragging point in arranged marriage profiles, even if the person is depressed and unfit.
Example 2: People proudly attaching "MBA, M.Tech, PhD" to their names on WhatsApp groups even when their real life is miserable.
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9. You are distracted from real freedom.
Example 1: College students spending hours every day making fake "reels" and memes rather than learning real life skills.
Example 2: Middle-aged men obsessed with building bigger houses in Bengaluru, mortgaging their entire future.
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10. You are guilt-tripped for escaping it.
Example 1: A young couple moving to a village to do organic farming is ridiculed as "failures" by relatives.
Example 2: An IT employee who quits to live simply is harassed with "Beta, you are wasting your potential!"
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11. You are trained to see worth only in comparison.
Example 1: "Sharma ji ka beta" syndrome — always comparing your child to others.
Example 2: Class 10 CBSE results day — parents checking not their child’s learning, but how much better or worse he/she did than others.
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12. You are conditioned to overwork to prove value.
Example 1: Start-up culture in India celebrating 18-hour workdays, with founders bragging about not sleeping for days.
Example 2: Teachers in government schools being forced to do census duty, election duty, and other works outside teaching — just to stay "useful."
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13. You are made ashamed of natural processes.
Example 1: Periods are still a taboo — girls in villages hiding their sanitary pads like illegal goods.
Example 2: Natural aging — men dyeing hair and women getting botox because white hair or wrinkles are “ugly.”
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14. You are taught that success is escaping your roots.
Example 1: A farmer’s son is considered successful only if he works in Delhi or Mumbai, not if he farms better than his father.
Example 2: Artisans who switch to factory jobs are praised more than those who keep their craft alive.
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15. You are taught to be competitive over collaborative.
Example 1: NEET and JEE coaching — kids are literally turned into machines against each other from age 12.
Example 2: Start-ups bragging about "crushing the competition" rather than serving real human needs.
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16. You are trained to hide emotions as weakness.
Example 1: Boys are told "Mard ko dard nahi hota" (Real men don’t cry).
Example 2: Girls who express anger are immediately labeled as “aggressive” or “spoilt.”
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17. You are taught to respect position, not wisdom.
Example 1: A corrupt IAS officer is still respected because he holds "power."
Example 2: Wise old farmers or healers without degrees are ignored, laughed at, or pitied.
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18. You are tricked into endless consumerism.
Example 1: Weddings — families spending ₹20-50 lakhs on events to show social status, going into debt.
Example 2: Diwali celebrations — buying endless plastic gifts, crackers, LED lights instead of sharing love or growing food together.
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19. You are taught dependency, not resilience.
Example 1: Kids cannot even cook a basic meal at 18, because everything is ordered from Zomato/Swiggy.
Example 2: Middle-class adults panicking during Bengaluru water shortages because they never learned water conservation.
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20. You are conditioned to keep seeking, never resting.
Example 1: A person who buys a new car feels happiness for only a few days — soon wants a bigger one.
Example 2: Professionals constantly chasing more certifications, promotions, investments — never feeling “enough.”
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21. You are programmed to glorify suffering as virtue.
Example 1: Women staying in abusive marriages because "Sahan karna hi pativrata ka dharm hai" (Enduring pain is a wife's duty).
Example 2: Farmers proudly working through physical pain without rest, fearing being called "lazy" if they slow down.
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22. You are taught that hierarchy is natural and must be obeyed.
Example 1: Students standing up and saying "Good Morning Sir" in chorus to teachers like soldiers.
Example 2: A junior software engineer being expected to touch the feet of senior managers during Indian festivals.
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23. You are made to mistake servitude for respect.
Example 1: Housemaids calling employers "Amma" and "Sir" even if treated poorly.
Example 2: Office boys forced to bring tea/snacks for senior staff while being humiliated behind their backs.
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24. You are trained to hide your real financial condition.
Example 1: Families taking huge loans to host a lavish wedding to “save face” in the community.
Example 2: Middle-class kids in colleges pretending to be rich by buying fake branded shoes and gadgets on EMI.
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25. You are conditioned to sacrifice play and joy for duty.
Example 1: Children who enjoy drawing, running, or singing are scolded — "Padhai pe dhyan do, warna kuch nahi banoge" (Focus on studies or you'll be nothing).
Example 2: Teenagers quitting cricket, arts, drama clubs under parental pressure to focus purely on IIT-JEE or NEET.
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26. You are taught that appearances are more important than reality.
Example 1: Building fake resumes and LinkedIn profiles with buzzwords like "visionary" and "changemaker" even without achievements.
Example 2: Parents forcing girls to wear heavy gold jewelry for family functions to "show standard" even if they are drowning in debt.
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27. You are forced into adult roles before maturity.
Example 1: A 15-year-old boy working at a tea stall because "ghar ka bojh uthana hai" (must carry the family's burden).
Example 2: Young girls in rural areas being married off by 17-18 years because "beti ka bojh halka karna hai" (to reduce the daughter's burden).
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28. You are discouraged from asking fundamental questions.
Example 1: A child asking, "Why should I pray if I don't feel anything?" being scolded and labeled 'atheist' or 'arrogant'.
Example 2: A college student questioning caste or reservation politics is warned to "stay silent to avoid problems."
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29. You are made to perform rituals without inner understanding.
Example 1: Youngsters participating in poojas and fasts mechanically because "Sab karte hain" (everyone does it).
Example 2: Corporate "wellness" retreats where meditation is taught in 2-hour slots like a productivity hack.
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30. You are taught that pleasing others is more important than living truthfully.
Example 1: A man attending family events he hates, out of fear of being called "ghamandi" (arrogant).
Example 2: A woman tolerating toxic friendships because breaking away would make her "seem rude" in the social group.
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31. You are programmed to overvalue certificates over competence.
Example 1: Companies preferring an MBA graduate who knows nothing practical over a skilled entrepreneur without a degree.
Example 2: Parents forcing children to do endless certificate courses during vacations to “build the resume” — ignoring real learning.
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32. You are taught that the majority is always right.
Example 1: A student refusing to drink soft drinks at a party is ridiculed — "Tu bada sadhu ban gaya hai kya?" (Have you become a saint?).
Example 2: A villager opposing pesticide use is silenced because "poora gaon toh spray karta hai" (the whole village sprays, so it must be right).
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33. You are conditioned to prefer surface knowledge over deep understanding.
Example 1: School children memorizing science facts without doing a single real experiment in Indian schools.
Example 2: "GK competitions" where kids mug up capitals and dates — but can't explain even basic natural phenomena around them.
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34. You are taught to measure life by milestones, not moments.
Example 1: "Bachpan mein school, jawani mein shaadi, budhape mein pota-poti" (School in childhood, marriage in youth, grandchildren in old age) — the fixed Indian life path.
Example 2: Instagram posts — "Engaged at 25, Married at 27, Baby at 30" — ticking boxes rather than living authentically.
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35. You are encouraged to suppress discomfort rather than question its cause.
Example 1: A student feeling burnt out is told to "push through" rather than to examine whether the entire education system is toxic.
Example 2: An employee suffering mental health issues is asked to "just do yoga and come back to work."
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36. You are taught dependency on authority rather than cultivating discernment.
Example 1: Villagers blindly voting for whoever the "big man" (local strongman) endorses — without understanding policies.
Example 2: Patients taking pills prescribed by doctors without even asking what disease they supposedly have.
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37. You are made to fear experimentation and failure.
Example 1: Students are scared to start businesses or creative careers because "What if you fail? Log kya kahenge?" (What will people say?).
Example 2: Farmers hesitant to try natural farming because if the crop fails once, their entire community will mock them.
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38. You are conditioned to see rebellion as dangerous instead of necessary.
Example 1: College students organizing peaceful protests are branded "naxals" or "anti-nationals."
Example 2: A girl refusing to follow rigid dress codes is seen as "bad character" in small towns.
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39. You are trained to act out roles rather than live honestly.
Example 1: An Indian bride pretending to be shy and coy at the wedding even if she’s bold and outspoken normally.
Example 2: Corporate employees pretending loyalty to managers they secretly despise.
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40. You are disconnected from ancestral wisdom and made addicted to modern fads.
Example 1: Youngsters eating factory-made "protein bars" instead of homemade dry fruit laddoos for fitness.
Example 2: Urban parents mocking traditional home remedies and trusting only branded medicines blindly.
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41. You are taught that speed matters more than depth.
Example 1: Students in Indian schools rushing to complete syllabus chapters without understanding anything properly.
Example 2: Startups bragging about "growth hacking" and "scaling fast" without building sustainable businesses.
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42. You are made to worship busyness instead of purposeful living.
Example 1: People boasting about "how busy" they are, even when doing meaningless or exhausting work.
Example 2: Relatives feeling proud if their children have no free time because their schedule is packed with classes and coaching.
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43. You are taught that asking for help is weakness.
Example 1: Students struggling mentally but refusing to ask teachers for help because they'll be seen as "dumb."
Example 2: Fathers in Indian households secretly suffering stress and debts but refusing to discuss with family to "appear strong."
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44. You are conditioned to accumulate, not to create or nurture.
Example 1: Wealthy families in India buying second or third houses just to "show property value," leaving them empty.
Example 2: Educated urban families hoarding gold, vehicles, gadgets — but growing zero food, trees, or relationships.
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45. You are taught that your worth depends on the opinions of others.
Example 1: Youngsters posting every event — engagements, promotions, birthdays — on Instagram just to get likes and validation.
Example 2: A son choosing a career he hates just because "if I don't become a doctor, my parents will lose face."
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46. You are made to prioritize looking good over being good.
Example 1: Wedding photoshoots worth lakhs, while the couple themselves have no emotional maturity or trust.
Example 2: Schools repainting walls before government inspections while children study without toilets or drinking water.
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47. You are trained to mistake noise for progress.
Example 1: TV news debates in India shouting nonsense instead of delivering any real investigation or knowledge.
Example 2: Politicians holding endless "road shows" with loudspeakers and slogans, even if no real work is happening.
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48. You are conditioned to imitate, not to originate.
Example 1: Indian films endlessly remaking Hollywood or South Indian movies instead of creating new stories.
Example 2: Schoolchildren forced to write memorized essays and speeches instead of expressing their own thoughts.
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49. You are taught to fear change, even when change is necessary.
Example 1: Villagers resisting switching from chemical fertilizers to natural farming despite visible soil destruction.
Example 2: Office workers clinging to toxic jobs for years just because "at least it's a stable income."
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50. You are made to believe survival is the highest goal.
Example 1: Middle-class Indian parents telling children "Beta, secure a government job, private jobs have no guarantee."
Example 2: Talented youth abandoning creative careers (writing, painting, organic farming) because "kaise pet bharenge?" (how will we fill the stomach?).
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51. You are taught to obey tradition without evaluating its relevance.
Example 1: Blindly celebrating festivals like Dussehra and Diwali with harmful fireworks and wastage, ignoring environmental destruction.
Example 2: Rural families forcing dowry rituals during marriages even when both families are financially struggling.
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52. You are conditioned to hide vulnerabilities instead of healing them.
Example 1: A boy facing exam anxiety hides it, fearing he'll be mocked as "kamzor" (weak).
Example 2: A woman suffering domestic violence tells neighbors "sab theek hai" (everything is fine) to maintain social image.
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53. You are trained to believe higher consumption equals higher happiness.
Example 1: Teenagers buying new phones every year just because friends upgraded — not because anything was lacking.
Example 2: Urban families celebrating promotions by buying bigger cars even when EMI burden becomes suffocating.
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54. You are made to idolize distant heroes instead of becoming a local one.
Example 1: Villagers worshipping film stars and cricketers but ignoring old teachers or local community builders.
Example 2: Urban children dreaming of being "influencers" on Instagram while mocking real farmers and artisans nearby.
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55. You are taught to equate wealth with character.
Example 1: A corrupt businessman is invited as chief guest at school functions because he donated money.
Example 2: Honest but poor individuals are treated dismissively at weddings and social gatherings.
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56. You are made to value grand gestures over small consistent kindness.
Example 1: Celebrities donating crores during disasters — but abusing staff and workers daily.
Example 2: Companies doing massive "CSR" projects while internally exploiting employees and polluting surroundings.
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57. You are conditioned to be embarrassed by simplicity.
Example 1: A child carrying food in a steel tiffin box instead of fancy branded lunchboxes is mocked in urban schools.
Example 2: A bride opting for simple cotton saree for wedding is pressured to wear heavy designer lehengas.
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58. You are taught to confuse popularity with truth.
Example 1: YouTubers shouting false health advice getting millions of followers while silent researchers are ignored.
Example 2: Religious leaders gathering huge crowds are automatically assumed wise, even if their teachings are hollow.
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59. You are trained to overvalue external metrics over internal states.
Example 1: Parents celebrating their child's IIT admission even though the child is clinically depressed.
Example 2: Employees getting "Best Performer" awards while privately battling severe burnout.
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60. You are made to believe that fast solutions are better than deep healing.
Example 1: Urban Indians preferring quick surgeries (weight loss surgery, cosmetic procedures) instead of sustainable diet and lifestyle changes.
Example 2: Families demanding instant coaching results for NEET/JEE rather than slow, deep love for learning .
61. You are conditioned to value academic knowledge over experiential wisdom.
Example 1: An agricultural scientist with no real farming experience is considered superior to a 70-year-old natural farmer.
Example 2: Urban nutritionists designing diet charts but never growing or even touching real food plants.
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62. You are taught to silence your inner signals in favor of social instructions.
Example 1: A tired schoolchild is forced to continue tuition classes late at night ignoring natural sleep needs.
Example 2: A pregnant woman’s intuition to rest is overridden by family pushing her to attend social events and rituals.
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63. You are made to prioritize being 'nice' over being real.
Example 1: A person pretending to enjoy a boring marriage function just to “maintain relations.”
Example 2: Employees fake-smiling and over-praising bosses they secretly dislike to survive office politics.
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64. You are trained to weaponize guilt against yourself.
Example 1: A woman feeling guilty for pursuing a career dream because she is "neglecting" family expectations.
Example 2: A boy feeling guilty for not being interested in engineering when entire family sacrificed for his coaching.
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65. You are taught that status symbols define your identity.
Example 1: Youngsters rushing to buy Royal Enfield bikes or iPhones on EMIs to "show their level."
Example 2: Middle-class families spending huge amounts on lavish birthday parties for one-year-old children.
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66. You are made to mistake productivity for aliveness.
Example 1: Start-up founders bragging about working 100-hour weeks while being physically sick and mentally absent.
Example 2: Homemakers feeling "useless" if they take a quiet afternoon nap even when the housework is done.
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67. You are conditioned to suppress creativity in favor of conformity.
Example 1: A child drawing purple trees and orange rivers in art class is corrected — “trees must be green!”
Example 2: Fashion designers copying Western trends instead of innovating with indigenous Indian textiles.
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68. You are trained to glorify mediocrity if it fits the system.
Example 1: Government clerks with no motivation or creativity still celebrated as “settled” because of job security.
Example 2: Teachers mechanically dictating notes for years without passion but still hailed as "service to society."
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69. You are taught to associate growth only with material expansion.
Example 1: Rural families celebrating migration to crowded slums in Mumbai as “progress.”
Example 2: Farmers measuring success by how many tractors and chemical inputs they can buy, not soil health.
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70. You are made to believe that struggling for approval is a noble pursuit.
Example 1: Youth stressing over perfect wedding photos not for themselves but for relatives' and society’s approval.
Example 2: Employees working unpaid overtime to look "hardworking" for performance appraisals.
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71. You are trained to mistake endurance for wisdom.
Example 1: Elderly people giving life advice simply because they lived long — even if their own lives were full of unresolved suffering.
Example 2: Toxic marriages being "respected" because the couple stayed together for decades despite misery.
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72. You are conditioned to treat questioning as disrespect.
Example 1: A student politely asking "Why should I memorize this formula without understanding it?" is scolded for being insolent.
Example 2: A daughter questioning family superstitions during festivals being labeled "too modern" or "Westernized."
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73. You are taught to suppress bodily intuition in favor of mechanical schedules.
Example 1: Children forced to eat lunch exactly at 12:30 pm in school even if they are not hungry yet.
Example 2: Pregnant women forced to have C-sections scheduled based on doctor’s convenience, not body readiness.
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74. You are made to mistake duty for love.
Example 1: Sons and daughters visiting aged parents only out of obligation during festivals but calling it "love."
Example 2: Parents pressuring children into careers they hate under the name of "we love you and want your success."
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75. You are conditioned to constantly explain and justify your choices.
Example 1: A man deciding not to marry being hounded with "Why not? What's wrong with you?"
Example 2: A woman choosing not to have children being forced to defend her decision at every family gathering.
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76. You are trained to glorify suffering as loyalty to community or family.
Example 1: A woman tolerating abusive in-laws because “itna toh sehna padta hai” (one must endure a little).
Example 2: Students attending meaningless coaching classes only because their friends are also suffering through it.
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77. You are made to view natural cycles as problems to be solved.
Example 1: Women treating menopause like a disease to be medicated instead of a natural life phase.
Example 2: Parents rushing toddlers to speech therapy clinics because "he's not speaking sentences at age two."
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78. You are conditioned to treat life as a series of competitions.
Example 1: Kids comparing marksheets from kindergarten onwards — "My son scored 99%, yours got only 92%?"
Example 2: Adults comparing who has a bigger flat, fancier car, or more foreign trips during family gatherings.
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79. You are taught to mistrust silence and solitude.
Example 1: A young man spending a day alone reading is pitied — "Kya depression chal raha hai kya?" (Are you depressed?)
Example 2: Women seeking solo trips are warned — "Loneliness is dangerous; you need company to be happy."
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80. You are made to confuse emotional repression with emotional maturity.
Example 1: Boys taught that staying "stone-faced" during grief is maturity.
Example 2: Girls being praised for silently tolerating heartbreak instead of expressing anger or sadness.
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81. You are conditioned to fear being ordinary.
Example 1: A talented tailor in a small town is pitied because he’s not a software engineer in Bengaluru.
Example 2: Girls from middle-class families being discouraged from marrying good-hearted but "simple" boys without degrees or fancy jobs.
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82. You are taught to measure success by external markers alone.
Example 1: A boy getting admission to an IIM is celebrated even if he is already emotionally burnt out.
Example 2: A daughter landing a "big brand" job in Gurgaon is glorified even if she is miserable and lonely.
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83. You are trained to surrender to groupthink at every stage of life.
Example 1: Students copying career paths — "Engineering hi karna hai sab kar rahe hain" (Everyone is doing engineering).
Example 2: Entire wedding menus copied from neighbors to "match standard" without personal preference.
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84. You are conditioned to outsource self-worth to external achievements.
Example 1: Parents displaying children's medals and certificates as trophies of their own value.
Example 2: Workers tying their entire self-respect to company promotions and job titles.
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85. You are made to believe sacrifices are noble even when they are foolish.
Example 1: Farmers selling ancestral land to send sons to cities — who end up jobless or trapped in loans.
Example 2: Mothers neglecting their own health to overwork for family rituals and marriages.
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86. You are taught that settling for less is maturity.
Example 1: A woman tolerating a toxic spouse being praised as “samajhdar” (mature) for adjusting.
Example 2: A young man giving up dreams of entrepreneurship because "good boys accept steady jobs."
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87. You are conditioned to value inherited beliefs over personal insight.
Example 1: Continuing caste-based customs just because "hamare ghar mein aisa hota hai" (this is our tradition).
Example 2: Mocking vegan or minimalist lifestyles as “weird” because they are not yet part of mass behavior.
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88. You are trained to measure relationships by obligation, not by love.
Example 1: Inviting distant relatives you dislike to weddings purely because "it's expected."
Example 2: Gifting expensive but meaningless presents during Diwali just to fulfill social duty.
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89. You are taught to view intuition as superstition.
Example 1: A farmer's traditional weather prediction being dismissed as "unscientific" by younger generations addicted to apps.
Example 2: Mothers sensing emotional trouble in children being ignored in favor of "clinical psychology" labels.
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90. You are conditioned to treat life as a series of transactions.
Example 1: Attending weddings, housewarmings, and naming ceremonies only to "keep score" and expect invitations in return.
Example 2: Helping neighbors only because "kal hamare kaam aayenge" (they will help us tomorrow).
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91. You are trained to see competition even in love and friendship.
Example 1: Friends boasting about whose child spoke first, walked first, studied abroad first.
Example 2: Couples subtly comparing their relationships' milestones with others on social media.
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92. You are conditioned to see specialization as superiority.
Example 1: A generalist farmer practicing multiple skills is looked down upon compared to a "specialized" IT worker.
Example 2: A handloom artisan doing dyeing, weaving, stitching is seen as less professional than a designer with a diploma.
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93. You are taught to view financial dependence as emotional loyalty.
Example 1: Parents expecting lifelong financial support from sons as proof of "love and duty."
Example 2: In-laws measuring a daughter-in-law's worth by how much she contributes financially.
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94. You are trained to believe that discipline means suppression.
Example 1: A child who speaks too energetically is punished and labeled "badtameez" (ill-mannered).
Example 2: Students showing spontaneous curiosity in class are told to "stay in limits."
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95. You are conditioned to confuse tradition with truth.
Example 1: People believing that certain castes are "naturally superior" because it's "always been that way."
Example 2: Mothers refusing to breastfeed in public due to old norms of "modesty" despite child's need.
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96. You are taught that bigger is always better.
Example 1: Small, intimate weddings are mocked while massive, overcrowded functions are glorified.
Example 2: Businesses judged by office size, not by quality of work or ethics.
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97. You are trained to prioritize compliance over courage.
Example 1: Employees quietly accepting abusive bosses instead of risking confrontation.
Example 2: Students not reporting toxic coaching institutes because "career ka sawaal hai" (career is at stake).
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98. You are conditioned to value urgency over accuracy.
Example 1: News channels rushing to break false news first without verifying facts.
Example 2: Students filling exam sheets hastily to complete all answers even if wrong.
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99. You are taught that sacrificing your dreams for family is a noble destiny.
Example 1: Talented musicians giving up music careers to become engineers because "ghar ka naam roshan karna hai" (must honor the family's name).
Example 2: Women declining job opportunities abroad because "ladkiyan zyada door nahi jaati" (girls shouldn’t go too far).
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100. You are trained to see dependency systems as safety nets.
Example 1: Young adults staying in jobs they hate because "pension milega" (will get pension someday).
Example 2: Families clinging to government subsidies or quotas instead of developing self-reliance skills.
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