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One Truth Therapy

  • Writer: Madhukar Dama
    Madhukar Dama
  • Aug 7
  • 11 min read

Stop lying. Just one truth a day. Watch everything change.



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I. Prologue – A Country of Liars, Not Criminals


We are not a country of criminals.

We are a country of liars.


We lie like we breathe.

Not just to others. To ourselves.

About money, love, caste, failure, food, illness, sex, parenting, pain, joy, truth, God.

We lie to cover our status.

We lie to sound humble.

We lie to seem moral.

We lie to avoid jealousy.

We lie to gain sympathy.

We lie to protect other lies.


And after years of this —

we forget we’re lying at all.



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II. Why We Lie So Much – The Indian Context


> “Truth is not a value here. Survival is.”

— An anonymous IAS officer, retired.




1. Caste and Class Shame


A large chunk of Indian society — especially from oppressed castes and poorer classes — grew up being shamed for merely existing.


The trauma lives in their spine.


To escape that humiliation:


Some lie about their surname.


Some lie about their history.


Some lie about their home village.


Some lie about their parents’ jobs.


Some lie about their accents.


Some lie about their success to feel equal.


Some lie about their suffering to feel special.



Lying becomes self-preservation.


Real Example:

Kishore, a brilliant engineer from a Dalit family, kept pretending for years that his father was a retired teacher. In truth, he was a safai karamchari. Every lie he told after that was to protect this lie.


2. False Humility


In a society where achievement invites jealousy, people lie to downplay success.


> "Oh it's nothing, just luck."

"We live simply."

"We’re just managing somehow."




This is not humility. It’s fear.

Fear that truth will isolate you. That people will call you arrogant or show you your place.


3. Gender Roles and Lies


Men lie about emotions.


Women lie about anger.


Husbands lie about faithfulness.


Wives lie about happiness.


Parents lie to look strong.


Daughters lie to seem obedient.


Sons lie to appear capable.



We lie not because we want to deceive.

We lie because we fear truth will cost us love.



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III. How It Destroys You


> “Tell a lie once, and all your truths become suspect.”

— Rabindranath Tagore




1. You Start Hating Yourself


Each lie creates a small split inside you.

A part of you knows the truth. The other part buries it.


Soon, you don’t trust yourself anymore. You keep replaying conversations in your head. You feel like a fraud even when you're not lying. Your confidence becomes shaky. Your mind becomes noisy.


Example:

Rekha, a homemaker, lied about how peaceful her marriage was for 20 years. When she finally began therapy, her first words were, “I don’t know who I am without the lies.”


2. You Drive Away Good People


Honest people are allergic to liars.

They sense it. They may not confront you, but they slowly step back.


What remains are people who lie like you do — and soon your entire social circle becomes a game of mutual performance.


Example:

A young teacher named Ravi started being honest with his friends about his debt and failed startup. Within 6 months, half his old friend group stopped calling him. But 3 real people showed up — one helped him restructure his loan, the other introduced him to part-time work, and one just listened.


He told me, “I lost 20 fake friends, and gained 3 truths.”


3. Your Children Imitate You


Children are not innocent. They’re brilliant mimics.


If you lie about food, money, caste, feelings, or others —

they copy it.


Soon, they lie to you.

And they lie to themselves.

And your home becomes a stage.


Example:

A father who always pretended to be rich ended up with a son who took loans to pretend to be rich. Neither knew how to stop.



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IV. Physical and Mental Impact


Lying increases cortisol.


Lying fragments memory.


Lying reduces sleep quality.


Lying creates paranoia.


Lying leads to psychosomatic illness — back pain, fatigue, irritable bowel, migraines.


Lying builds up shame in body tissues.



> "One who lies must remember everything. That’s the quickest path to madness."

— Dr. Vasant Lad




Even modern studies say that habitual liars have higher stress markers, worse heart rhythms, and poor gut health.


You can meditate for years.

But if you lie daily — peace will never stay.



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V. The Therapy Begins: One Truth a Day


Prescription:

Tell one small truth every day that you were not telling earlier.


Just one.


Not the biggest one.

Not the darkest one.

Just one real, raw, lived, ordinary truth.


Let it be awkward.

Let it be embarrassing.

Let it break a small mask.


But say it.


> “When you tell the truth, your soul finds you again.”

— Osho





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VI. Why Just One Truth?


Because truth is like fire.

Too much too fast will burn everyone.


One truth a day is like lighting a diya.

You create light. You warm the room.

You let people adjust.


And slowly, you build a truthful life without destroying everything overnight.



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VII. Expected Reactions


1. People Will Get Angry


Because your truth exposes their lies.

Your clarity shames their confusion.


Let them react.


You are not fighting them.

You are just cleaning your room.


2. Your Mind Will Resist


You’ll feel guilt, shame, panic.


You’ll hear voices:


"What's the need?"


"This will hurt them."


"I’m not ready yet."



But remember —

those are voices of the liar in you.



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VIII. The Transformations You’ll See


1. Mental Silence


Your mind becomes quieter.

You no longer need to manage lies.

You no longer fear being found out.

You stop rehearsing conversations.


Real Example:

Vinita, a school principal, said: “Once I began telling simple truths — like when I’m tired, or when I disagree — I began sleeping deeper.”


2. Body Healing


Constipation eases.


Skin clears up.


Breathing deepens.


Headaches reduce.


Even sexual health improves.



Because when truth flows — lymph flows, blood flows, digestion flows.


3. Your Children Begin to Heal


You’ll see them:


Lying less.


Confessing sooner.


Laughing freely.


Apologizing genuinely.


Being less scared of failure.



You don’t have to teach them.

Just model truth, and they follow.



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IX. What Kind of Truths to Start With?


1. Situational Truths


“I actually didn’t like the food, but thank you for cooking.”


“I’m not free this weekend. I need rest.”



2. Status Truths


“We’re not doing great financially right now.”


“Yes, I got this job through a reservation quota.”



3. Emotional Truths


“I feel left out.”


“That joke hurt me.”


“I felt ashamed when you said that.”



4. Relational Truths


“I’ve been pretending in this friendship.”


“I don’t feel connected to you anymore.”


“I care about you. But I’ve also felt angry.”




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X. A Final Note – The One Truth That Changes Everything


There is a moment in every liar’s life where they say a truth they thought they could never say.


That moment is a spiritual rebirth.


For some, it’s telling their parent, “I am not like you.”

For some, it’s telling their child, “I failed you.”

For some, it’s telling their friend, “I was jealous of you.”

For some, it’s telling themselves, “I’ve been faking everything.”


If you can say that —

you’ve crossed the bridge.



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XI. Epilogue – A Quiet Revolution


This is not just personal healing.

This is national therapy.


Because if just 1 in 100 Indians starts telling one truth a day —

this whole country will begin to breathe again.


Not by policies.

Not by speeches.

Not by GDP growth.


But by truths.

Raw. Small. Daily. Lived.



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One truth a day.

That’s all.


Not to change the world.

Just to find yourself again.


And once you find yourself,

you’ll see —

you never needed the lies at all.




ONE TRUTH THERAPY

– a healing dialogue with Madhukar


How telling just one truth daily can liberate your body, mind, home, and soul



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Scene: A dusty verandah of Madhukar’s home, early morning. The smell of soaked castor seeds and tulsi leaves. A small blackboard near the wall reads “One truth a day – today’s: I don’t like talking to my cousin.”


Characters:


Madhukar – A rural healer, barefoot, sitting on a wooden bench, sipping herbal tea.


Suresh – 38, government school teacher, neat shirt, tired eyes, visibly anxious.


Adhya (14) and Anju (10) – Madhukar’s homeschooled daughters, playing nearby, listening quietly.




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1. Opening


Suresh:

I don’t know what’s wrong, Madhukar.

I’ve started shouting at my wife.

Can’t sleep well.

Kids avoid me.

I feel like a balloon filled with cement.


Madhukar (smiling softly):

It’s not what's wrong with you.

It’s the hundred lies you're carrying.

Like wearing steel inside your heart.


Suresh:

Lies? What lies? I don't cheat anyone. I'm a teacher. I help people.


Madhukar:

That’s the most dangerous kind – the lies you tell yourself.



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2. Lies as a National Habit


Madhukar:

You’re not alone.

This whole country lies.

About caste, money, health, relationships, careers, even gods.


Suresh:

But it’s necessary, no? To survive?


Madhukar:

That’s what a drug addict says before lighting another match.


You want an example?


Suresh nods.


A man gets a promotion.

He hides it from his relatives out of fear of jealousy.

He lies to his driver, to his neighbour, even to his wife – “just a small raise.”

He’s ashamed of being lucky.


Adhya interrupts:

Ajja says, “Doddavarige doSha, chikkavarige yaakeSha.” (The big ones are blamed, the small ones are pitied.)


Madhukar chuckles:

Exactly.

We shame the achiever.

So the achiever learns to shrink.



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3. Caste Shame and Lie Addiction


Madhukar:

You know what hurts me most, Suresh?

Many bright, sincere people from oppressed castes feel the need to lie —

to cover their background,

to appear more “sophisticated,”

to not embarrass their children.

But that shame grows like fungus.

You lie once to hide your past,

and then spend a lifetime covering that lie with newer lies.


Suresh (quiet):

My father used to tell me to hide our surname.

Said I wouldn’t get work otherwise.


Madhukar (nods):

And now you can’t look in the mirror without flinching.



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4. Lie to Spouse, Lie to Soul


Madhukar:

How many things have you not told your wife?


Suresh:

(Pauses) Maybe... I didn’t tell her I wanted to quit my job last year.

And that I’m scared of her father.

And that I still think about that girl from college sometimes.


Madhukar (smiling, but serious):

Each of these lies becomes a brick.

You build a silent wall.

And then wonder why your home feels like a prison.


Suresh (whispers):

She lied too.


Madhukar:

Yes. Because you started it.

And she continued it.

Now both are running on parallel tracks –

In the same house,

under the same roof,

but living in different universes.



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5. Your Children Are Watching


Adhya (from the side):

Uncle, lies smell different.


Suresh turns.

Madhukar:

She’s right.

Children may not understand what’s false,

but they sense it.

It changes their breathing.

Their sleep.

Even their immunity.


When you lie to protect your image,

you transfer that anxiety into your child’s spine.



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6. The Daily Therapy – One Truth a Day


Madhukar gets up. Brings out a small diary. Hands it to Suresh.


Madhukar:

This is your therapy.

No medicine. No guru. No app.

Just one truth a day.

Pick one lie you’ve been telling someone.

And tell the truth instead.

Just one.


Suresh:

But it’ll hurt people!


Madhukar:

Yes.

Sometimes it will hurt them.

Sometimes they will get angry.

But one day they will breathe deeper because of you.


Anju runs in with a turmeric-stained page. Reads aloud:

“Today I told Appa I don’t like the oily smell of his jacket. He said thank you and washed it.”


Madhukar (smiles):

Small truth. Big healing.



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7. Initial Backlash


Suresh:

What if they leave me?

My wife, my friends?


Madhukar:

They might.

Liars can’t tolerate mirrors.

You will lose people.

But they were never yours.

You’ll also gain new ones.

The kind who want to breathe fresh air,

not stale perfume of fake smiles.



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8. Effects on the Body


Madhukar:

Suresh, chronic lies cause chronic diseases.

Constipation, anxiety, hypertension, diabetes, cancer.


Suresh:

You’re exaggerating.


Madhukar:

Then why does your stomach churn before a tough conversation?

Why does your jaw clench when someone asks personal questions?


Because truth wants to come out —

and you’re blocking the floodgates.



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9. Truth Creates Order


Madhukar shows his little wall notebook. Every day he writes one truth.


“I am tired of teaching healing to people who don’t want to change.”


“I love when my daughters ask uncomfortable questions.”


“I feel happy when a government officer respects me.”


Madhukar:

When you keep telling truths,

your life starts arranging itself.

Like scattered iron pieces pulled by a magnet.

One truth a day becomes a river.

And rivers don't lie.



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10. A Month Later


Suresh returns. Cleaner eyes. Softer tone.


Suresh:

I started telling truths.

Some people fought with me.

Some stopped talking.

But my son hugged me yesterday.

Said he likes my voice again.

That’s enough.


Madhukar:

You’re breathing now.

Welcome home.



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11. Final Words – From a Father to a Nation


Madhukar (writing on the board):


> “Truth is the cheapest therapy.

No fee. No pills. Just guts.”


– From the heart of a barefoot man with nothing to sell except honesty.





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Epilogue – Suresh’s Diary Entry (Day 37)


"Today I told my principal I don’t want the ‘Best Teacher’ award because I didn’t earn it. He blinked. Laughed. Then said – this is why you actually deserve it."




LIE BECAUSE YOU ARE BORN HERE

– a Poem on One Truth Therapy


you lied again today.

said you ate.

said you slept.

said you’re fine.

you lied like you breathe—

in and out—rhythm of survival

not out of evil,

but because this place demands it.


you lie because you’re born here.

because your father was a peon

and the neighbour’s boy wears Nike.

because your cousin got a government job

by paying bribe

and you got caught selling bananas without license.


you lied at school.

said your father is a manager.

he’s a watchman.

you lied to your wife.

said you're proud of her,

but you were ashamed

because she spoke in raw Marathi at a corporate party.


your caste is stamped in your voice,

your lie is the balm over that stamp.

you lied because truth burns.

truth gets you laughed at.

truth gets you excluded.

truth doesn't get you a bank loan.


truth is too expensive.

nobody sells it anymore.

not the priest.

not the neta.

not even your Amma,

who says “God knows best”

but prays you marry fair-skinned

because she's tired of your black skinned failures.


and now your son lies.

says he didn't cry at school.

says he didn’t get bullied.

says he’s okay with the name ‘Kalu’.

he’s not.

but he’s learning.

to lie.

like you.

with style.


your home is a house of curated facts.

half-truths,

white lies,

slippery omissions.

no screams, no blood,

just soft murders of honesty

over tea, over rice,

over WhatsApp forwards.


you lied today.

again.

said you believe in God.

but it’s fear, not faith.

you lied again,

said “I’m happy for them”

when your neighbour bought a second car.

you’re not.

you hate him.

you hate yourself for hating him.

and you lie again.


but what if.

just once.

you told one truth?


just one.

that your knees ache.

that you’re scared of going broke.

that you love someone who left.

that you think your job is pointless.

that you don’t understand politics,

but pretend to.


what if you told your daughter

you don’t know the answer,

but you’ll find out with her?

what if you told your friend

you’re jealous,

and you’re trying to be better?


what if you just stopped.

one lie a day.

cut.

burn it.

spit it out.


truth tastes bitter

but it digests clean.


and maybe,

just maybe,

your people will leave.

your wife will stare.

your boss will frown.

your friends will call you arrogant,

mad,

“gone spiritual”.


but you’ll find your lungs again.

your back will straighten.

your son will look at you

not as a man who provided

but as a man who didn’t pretend.


truth is not a sword.

it’s a lantern.

heavy to hold,

but it lights the rot.


tell one.

just one.

then another.

and another.

watch the poison drain.

watch the skin return to your body.

watch your life change

not loudly—

but quietly,

like a leaf uncurling

after years of drought.





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